You have coffee with some friends and they seem to go on and on telling you how busy and stressed they are. I mean, I’m sure some of you can relate to this. She holds her head with dignity and deals with them face on as much as she can. She also refuses to indulge in attempts to get sympathy for the amount of hard work she’s put in, or stress, or some major life problems she is facing. I’m not saying that she pretends that she isn’t busy, isn’t stressed, or doesn’t make effort to look good. This is an act of kindness and, believe it or not, is directly opposite of being self-indulgent. There are certain things about yourself that you need to hold back, for the appropriate time and for the right people. Not everyone needs to know how hard you work, or how stressed you are. While I’m not encouraging pretentiousness, there is a certain wisdom with knowing what to hold back and not reveal. Perhaps, unintentionally she makes it all seems so effortless. Whatever it may be, no matter what she’s going through, she is self-contained. So no, she doesn’t look like there’s lots on her mind in a flustered way. I believe the elegant person on my mind is fairly organised and structured, and does things one at a time and keeps her mind in control. It is just that she doesn’t need to show or tell the whole world. Now I’m not saying that she’s neither flustered nor stressed. I have a slightly nervous and anxious streak in me – and that was how elegant was born – I needed to cope.) (I admire this quality most because it does not come naturally for me. She does not appear rushed at all, but calm. Her clothes and hair helps me focus on her as a beautiful person both on the inside and out, but not in a showy way. The elegant person on my mind does not give me the impression that she has spent hours curling her hair and making her make up absolutely perfect (though her make up is natural and neat). Think about her for a second and explore the following questions in your mind:ĭoes she give you the impression that she has spent hours on curling her hair and putting on make up? Did she spend a long time in front of her wardrobe styling herself to look fashionable? Did she appear rushed from work, flustered and stressed? Does she have lots of her mind that she’s unable to park her car properly or talk to you without checking work emails on her phone? Is she telling you how hard her life is? Or how hard she has worked?įor the few elegant women that has come to mind, the answers are no to these questions on all fronts. Maybe you can think and ponder now together with me on someone whom you find extremely elegant. I’ve thought about this long and hard on how do I exactly describe this effortlessness that makes elegance so attractive. The Effortlessly Elegant WomanĪnother type of elegance is also to make it all seem effortless. The more authentic you are as a person, the more you’ll grow in elegance. You’ll also take time to figure out what you enjoy, your strengths and talents and gifts etc. This means you prune your wardrobe, get rid of clutter, say no to unnecessary events or activities that may take a toil on your health or finances, minimise contact with people who get you down etc.Įlegance is also about being authentic, where you analyse your thoughts, your choices etc, to see if you’re truly being yourself. A large part of attaining elegance is to edit, edit, edit. I started thinking about beautiful elegant women and how they make it all seem effortless.Īs in my previous posts/articles, I had written about the ‘principle of editing’. I explored this principle of elegance and this is my interpretation. Effortless elegance is a quality found in elegant women.
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